One of the reasons I think people struggling with their MH don’t talk about it is because they care. A lot. And sometimes too much about the people they need to reach out to.
I think this is particularly true with anxiety. When one of the main things that would help you is to talk, to get things out of your head where you’re only having conversations with yourself. But you don’t. You keep it all in. Because you care more about what other people will feel or will think about you. And shouldn’t you be caring for yourself first?
Isn’t it selfish to be selfless?
Is the only time you think of yourself when you take a selfie. But then you spend ages criticising who you see in the picture, or worrying what other people will think if your share it.
I had an amazing conversation recently with someone who shared with me. And they got upset. Which I can understand but they didn’t need to. I didn’t understand what they were coping with but I learnt a lot. I didn’t judge them. I didn’t like them any less after. In fact I liked them more. I respected them more. Not just for sharing but because they had been brave and strong enough to put themselves first and take care of themselves.
I shared some of my MH ‘journey’ at work during mental health awareness week on our intranet. Nearly 3000 people read it (over 25% of the organisation) and I had e mails from people I knew, and many I didn’t thanking me for sharing.
Sharing is caring. It’s caring for yourself. It’s caring for those who support you. It’s caring for those who maybe don’t know you but it would help to understand you a bit better. It’s caring for those who may feel the same way as you but aren’t yet brave enough to share and feel like they are alone battling their demons.
Mr Paul Wyse