Justin Bieber once sang
"if you like the way you look that much then maybe you should go and love yourself"
He's a wise man Bieber.
But what do we do if we don't like the way we look that much, or the way we act, or the way we are, basically if we don't love ourselves?
Vitamin D comes from the sunshine.
Vitamin Sea comes from the seaside.
Where does Vitamin L(ove) come from?
For many people it comes from within. They believe in themselves. They can look in the mirror and focus on the good things they see. They can find the positive in a situation. They answer 'how are you' with 'good' instead of 'not bad'.
For me I'm still working on loving myself (that always sounds smutty) and giving myself some Vitamin L.
But it's hard, and I'm currently in a real low, and when I am I need others to help me out of it, to give me encouragement, to lend me a hand, to help me believe in myself, to tell me 'you can do it' to say the right thing.
The trouble is I don't want to ask, because I already feel shit about myself and super needy, and to ask for some Vitamin L from others just makes me feel more shit and more needy.
So what's the solution? We unfortunately, it depends on others spotting that I'm down and in need of some Vitamin L and coming to me, making the steps to fill the space where I have withdrawn. If I've gone quiet it's because I'm struggling. If i've withdrawn it's because I'm struggling.
What I really need is someone to tell me I'm valued.
Someone to tell me I have worth.
Someone to tell me I'm loved,
And ideally, this to be a face to face conversation, and include a hug.
Take Care, and don't be afraid to step into that space if someone has withdrawn from it
Mr Paul Wyse